Do you find yourself stuck somewhere in the middle of life between what, on the one hand is familiar and safe and on the other hand leaves you longing for things to somehow be different? Knowing that if you don’t make a change, you’ll be settling or even worse, giving up on yourself? Looking for something, but you’re not quite sure what?
This feeling of stuck in middle life can show up in your relationships (with a partner, family, friends, or even yourself), your work, your playtime, and in your spiritual and emotional well-being.
I like to think that if you’re here on this Explore Life website, in this moment, that somehow it was meant to be. I’d like this to be a safe place for you to explore, get some of your questions answered, and feel connected, knowing you’re not alone in your experience.
- Why do I feel so dissatisfied in my life when I have all the things I’m supposed to have?
- Will I only be happy with my work if I find another job (and give up everything I’ve worked for)?
- What do I do to add adventure, newness, and play to my life?
- How do I feel connected again with my partner/my friends/my family members?
- At the end of the day, how do I find a way to feel like my life has meaning, like I’ve made a difference?
- How do I make changes that I believe will make me happy without feeling guilty and afraid I’ll hurt the people I love?
- If I keep living the way I am, will I have deep regrets?
- What do I do now that…
my children are independent?
I’m working less/retired?
my body no longer let’s me do the things that make me feel alive?
I have to care for my aging parent(s)?
I no longer have my parent(s)?
Feelings of being lost, stuck, unconfident, misaligned, exhausted, misunderstood, and bored and confused, are all things that go along with middle life. It’s that place between our learning from experience in our youth and creating a life of purpose and meaning as we age. It’s the time in life to build the bridge between our past and our future.
For the accomplished, successful, strong woman, these feelings can be particularly alarming. For them, life has followed a predetermined path, mapped out for them since they were young girls. Get an education, get a career, get married, buy a house, have kids, and do some fun stuff like travel along the way. Things have gone as planned to this point. Suddenly, in middle life, they’ve come to the edge of the map. There are no more destinations indicated. No more plotted roads to travel. The map is now useless and the lost feelings surface, not knowing where to start or where to go.
When these overwhelming feelings of being lost surfaced for me, I was caught completely off guard. In the span of less than two years, not only did I lose my mom and dad, I had lost me. My experiences in middle life, of leaving a 20-year career to start my own business, of becoming a caregiver, of my parents dying, of losing the roles that I thought were me (daughter, caregiver, competitive athlete, therapeutic recreation specialist) encouraged me to devote my coaching practice to supporting the unique and important inner work of this stage of life. By applying the “life coaching” tools I’ve used with my clients on myself, I found a way back to me. I got clear about what I want my life to look and feel like – and how to go about re-creating it.
I’m Patti Phillips, certified co-creative life coach. I help competent women who become unsettled when they find themselves feeling lost, probably for the first time, in middle life. Together, we map a new path for what’s next in her life through the life coaching process.
We can explore specific plans re-create your career (or life after career), re-aligning your actions to match your deeply held values, relationship decisions and reshaping, strategies for downsizing and simplifying life, or re-designing your time to make life more meaningful. We’ll reconnect with your desires – the things and experiences your spirit longs for that you may have forgotten or never had the chance to explore – and then, on paper, we’ll re-create the path.
We can work together in different ways: · in-person, private one-on-one coaching in Winnipeg · private, one-on-one phone coaching from anywhere · in-person small group coaching with other women like you · online group coaching program with women from all over the world to review and Renew at 50 · e-mail based, self-guide personal development program If the opportunity exists to do any in-person coaching while in nature (here in beautiful Manitoba), that’s where I believe deeper exploration can happen. If we work together online, I may give you some gentle outdoor homework assignments – no rope bridges or hard stuff… just a bit of fresh air, a bit of movement, a bit of time connecting with nature. By being out of one’s typical environment, the true self finds a way to be more present. Nature has a magical way of making the connection between being and doing, being present in the moment, and amplifying the splendor of life. If you’d like to explore the option of mapping a new path for what’s next in life with me, please review my services or get in touch directly and I can answer any questions.
“There are no shortcuts to any place worth going. You have to do hard things to be happy in life. The things no one else is doing. The things that frighten you. The things others can’t do for you. The things that make you question how much longer you can hold on and push forward. Why? Because those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between existing and living – between knowing the path and walking the path – between a life of mediocrity and a life filled with happiness and success.” Beverly Sills